We would have to be living under a rock not to recognize that we are in very emotional times when people on both sides of the political aisles are highly polarized, angry and willing to even go to violent measures to make their displeasure known.
What is the solution? How do we move beyond such negative emotions in order to find solutions to real problems within our country?
We saw our leaders begin the process when they appeared together and spoke about coming together. Yet, the news media questioned whether this was just for show. It was as if there was an internal recognition that we will need more than mere words and photo opportunities to succeed for the good of all concerned.
It’s my opinion that any meaningful healing will have to begin with forgiveness.
Are you willing to forgive those who hurt or harm you? Are you willing to forgive those who hurt you without conscious awareness of what they are doing or without intent to harm?
Are you willing to ask forgiveness from all those that you have hurt under the very same circumstances?
Your willingness to forgive and humility to ask for forgiveness when you are feeling self-righteous is the key to an ancient Hawaiian practice known as Ho’opono pono. I had heard of it over the years, however, it was not until I read Dr. Joe Vitale’s book, “Zero Limits,” that I had an inkling of what a profound technique this is.
Do you know the name Dr. Joe Vitale? He is a legendary marketer who became aware of this technique, wrote “Zero Limits” in 2008, and has recently released “Zero Limits III.” At first glance, this technique is amazingly simple. Say the words; meditate on the words: I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.
We often have a great deal of resistance to saying I’m sorry. As Joe puts it, our first response may be “Why am I saying I’m sorry? What did I do?
What all of us have done is be unaware of the beliefs and programs we have carried with us from birth. For centuries, we have carried basic survival programs, probably now in our DNA. These survival beliefs may not serve us well anymore, but we still carry them, totally unaware of what they bring into our lives.
In success circles, we talk about conditioning – all the beliefs we acquire from birth from our families, religious institutions, schools, communities and the media. These beliefs impose limitations on us and until we address them, we will continue to be run by old tapes. In the Ho’opono pono tradition, they clean these old tapes out by forgiving and asking for forgiveness continually.
Does something uncomfortable arrive in your life? Are you experiencing negative emotions? Then erase the program that brought it into your experience. Take 100% responsibility for whatever shows up, forgive and ask to be forgiven. This is probably a tall order for most of us, yet we can look to examples to see how powerful forgiveness can be.
The most notable is seen in South Africa. When Nelson Mandela became the leader there, he faced a country formed around notions of apartheid. He himself had been imprisoned for decades. And what technique stands out in bringing the country through those hard times? A national mandate to forgive. Criminals and enforcers, face to face, forgiving one another.
It may not be practical to meet everyone in face to face forgiveness rituals, however, you can contribute to an overall improvement by practicing forgiveness and Ho’opono pono in your prayers and meditations. Notice where you have blocked the flow of love and appreciation at home, among family and friends, at work and in your community and say those words: I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.
You can do it. You can be an agent helping to heal our wounds. You can contribute to positive change. Amazing things can happen.
I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.
I believe in you,