Do You Need Some Prep Talk?

I believe we all need to engage in some Prep Talk. We look around us and see disasters looming at every turn. It’s challenging to watch the news. Natural disasters appear to be more common and more destructive. Families still struggle, careers come and go, We worry about our health, our finances, our relationships with others and the communities in which we live. Negative self-talk threatens to overwhelm us.

But what we really want is to be prepared so when bad things happen, we can survive, recover, rebuild and go on to thrive. That’s why I’m starting a new program designed to help us do just that.

My experience has taught me that it is possible to improve our life skills so that it is easier to recover.

Survival begins now, not in the thick of a crisis or in its aftermath. It is about living prepared and being resilient.

What’s important is to get the information out and help people see where they can get prepared, where they can find solutions for their personal, work, professional and global benefits.

Join me as I introduce “Mindset of a Survivor: An Inner and Outer Look at Being Prepared”.

Event Title: “Mindset of a Survivor” Teleseminar
Date & Time: Saturday, April 27th at 9:00 AM Pacific

To attend this event, click here 15 minutes before the event time:

If you don’t have access to the web, you can listen in by dialing (206) 402-0100, and using the following conference pin: 250369#

Here is a list of international numbers:

I look forward to “seeing” you there.

I believe in you,


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I Feel Your Pain

Susan - Alex shot 6327I realize it’s hard to think forward when you are in the midst of the pain and chaos that surrounds any type of disaster.  I know.  I have been there.

Even as I send prayers and support to victims of fires, floods and shootings, I am also here to tell you that regardless of the circumstances in which you find yourself, you can get through this.

Ever since a landslide destroyed our home, I have worked to help others learn how to get past such events.  It’s part of my work now to help empower you to survive,  rebuild and thrive through faith, belief and action so that you can continue to live the life you envision and contribute to the world in the way you choose.

You may reach out for assistance at  To schedule a free consultation to help you start the recovery process, sign up at

Let’s empower your recovery.

I believe in you,


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6 Tips to Regain Your Inner Peace After a Negative Experience

With so many negative events in the news, I’d like to help you regain your inner peace when your thoughts and emotions are running wild and threaten to swamp you at times like these.  Energetically, I’d like to reach through cyberspace to find out what is going on for you.  Have you been affected by the devastating storm or the news coverage of recent events?  Or has a personal situation driven out thoughts of anything else?

Pause for just a moment.  Consider your physical state.  Feel your body.  Feel the pressure of where chairs, sofas and floors touch your body.  Feel your breath moving through you.  Do you have any discomfort?  As you body to send such discomfort into a far corner of your mind.  Not to worry, you will return for it.  For now, realize that although you have a body, you are not just your body.  You are much more than your body.

You also have emotions.  Notice the emotions that are affecting you right now.  There may be so many.  A time of crisis evokes a variety of strong, painful feelings.  Acknowledge fear, loss, anger, despair, hopelessness.  Acknowledge love, hope and gratitude if you feel them.  And as before, ask your emotions to recede into a decent part of your mind.  Not to worry.  You will come back for your feelings but for the moment, you are realizing that although you have feelings, you are not just your feelings, you are much more than your feelings.

You also have thoughts.  What are you thinking right now?  Are your thoughts filled with negativity?  Are they confused, searching for answers and solutions?  Are you trying to pull together all the sensory input coming at you at this moment?  Stop.  Ask your mind to send this wild mix of thoughts to a deep recess in your mind.  Not to worry, you will return for them.   You have thoughts, but you are not just your thoughts.  You are much more than your thoughts.

You are a centered being of Light and Love and Power.  Experience the sensation that remains when you have quieted all the rest.  It is a calm, peaceful place.  Here your subconscious mind links to the field of all possibilities.  From here you can receive guidance and insight.

Return now to your conscious mind and your earlier realization that yes, we have emotions, but we are not just our emotions.  We value our emotions.  They are a barometer of where we are and where we want to be.  Fear can be an alert system or enslave us, if we let it.  Frustration and anger can be healthy motivators or destructive, if we let them.  Therefore, it is important to recognize that while we have emotions, we are much more than our emotions.

When we are in the middle of a crisis of any kind, it is wise to observe each situation as it unfolds, identify how we would prefer it to be, as well as what we can do about it.  What resources can we find?  What can we help change?  Who else can help?  With an idea of those things, we can develop a plan to change where we are in a situation and get more of what we want right now.

Once again, disaster has affected at least 1 million people, probably more.  It is early yet.  We are at the stage of search and rescue.  First responders are walking, boating and flying to make an estimate of the damage done, the lives affected and those who need immediate assistance.  An accurate count is impossible.  Those who escaped may still be listed among the missing, with too few communications channels open to let people know.  Only when they check in will the numbers become real and, for some, relief from worry.

Where are the survivors?  The clock is ticking for those who were unprepared and for those affected beyond their ability to prepare enough for a storm of this magnitude.  If we are not first responders, we are still being asked to stay away right now.  There is such a sense of helplessness when you hear the news and have no immediate channel to provide assistance.

Still, it is the precise point when we can begin to tame negative emotions and negative self-talk.  The first priority of the subconscious mind is to keep us alive, to keep the autonomic systems operating and keep us out of harm’s way.  When faced with such overwhelming catastrophe, it can paralyze us.

We have to snap out of it!  First responders are trained to do this.  They know how to mobilize, arrive, evaluate a situation and plan how to take appropriate action.  They are already at work, long before we tame the inner beast of negative emotions and mental confusion.  You have the power to snap out of it!  You have the power to help.  Here are a few ways you can do it:

  1. Calm the mental beast. Stop saying negative things.  Catch yourself and flip your thinking.  Use Afformations, positive why questions:  Why am I able to help?  Why am I  able to make a difference?
  2. Change your perception emotionally by looking at what has happened, what we feel, what we would have preferred to have happen, and what will have to happen for that preference to become the reality.
  3. Address the mind loop of fear and worry. When we are caught up in this loop we are either revisiting a prior negative experience or projecting that experience into the future.  Past failures and successes are no guarantee of future outcomes.  It is up to us to live in the present, finding ways to handle immediate needs in ways that will ensure the best outcomes possible.  Begin to look for solutions.
  4. Pray, meditate, center. Ask for guidance.  Ask to be shown what you can do.  You can start alone or join others.
  5. Move your feet.  Start to help right where you are.  If you see something that needs to be done or someone who needs assistance, help them.  Don’t leave it for someone else to do.  They may be busy helping others.  Pick up the trash.  Bring a meal to an ailing friend.  Watch and listen for calls for assistance in your area, online and via media reports.  Give what you can.  It doesn’t have to be money.  You can donate things you have, time and energy to help in the response, or money.   When you are helping others you have less time to experience fear and worry.
  6. There are several stages during which you can help: the search and rescue stage, the stabilization phase, the rebuilding phase, and, if you are fortunate to be part of it, the time when a person or community can begin to thrive toward a new and expanded existence. If you have the ability, participate in search and rescue.  Help people stabilize.  At first, the shelters will need assistance.  Later, basic needs will be required for a length of time.  The Red Cross works to get people into safe, stable housing as soon as possible.   FEMA works to replace housing for potentially long term periods.  Food, water and clothing will be needed, available at community distribution centers set up for this purpose.  Like the pioneers, the community will come together to rebuild.   Small businesses will need assistance to rebuild, restock and carry on.  Who knows?  You may change your life in the process.  You may be led to do something you enthusiastically support that puts you into the mindset to thrive!

There are lots of questions to ask in the wake of adversity.  While you are answering them, stay active.  You can regain your inner peace and go on to do more than survive or rebuild.  You can go on to Thrive.

I believe in you,


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What is the Key to Bounce Back from Adversity?

Getting out of the deep pit of adversity is a challenging journey through the gamut of human emotions.  If you successfully navigate the pathways, you bounce back from adversity.  But what is the key that enables you to bounce back and, not only that, move on to thrive in life?

I’ve pondered this at length while writing this post.  I was sure that Faith and Belief were the key, but then word cloud research from my book “Rainbows Over Ruins” revealed that Action was the most used word within it.  Actions are certainly critical to progress, so which is it?  I found the answer in the old Shaker saying, “Pray and move your feet.”   As I write, I immediately think of other factors including being willing to make the journey when you are at your lowest.

Certainly, we spring into action instinctually after a disaster or major setback.  However, we don’t think clearly.  Shock immobilizes us for a time, but as the shock wears off, we may be overwhelmed by strong, negative emotions.  Profound fear paralyzes us.  The confrontation with poverty brought on by serious setbacks brings on despair, hopelessness and apathy.  Needy in every way, lacking resources and energy, we may lose the will to live.   Grief itself can overpower us in the belief that what has been lost can never be replaced which, in turn, can lead to stagnation in a powerless depression.  We are brought to our knees, humbled by the immensity of it all.

It is in these early moments that the Shaker saying rings so true.  Pray.  We are at a total loss, not knowing what to do or how to do it.  It is a time to pause and open to our loving connection to a power greater than ourselves.  This power is known by many names: God, Source Energy, Quantum Consciousness, All That Is, and hundreds of others.  When we feel powerless, the greatest action we can take is to connect to this power.  Our subconscious mind provides the link and we have only to quietly listen for guidance, be open to receive it and rest in the healing energies that flow freely to us.

Over the years, I have studied many ways to achieve this connection – prayers, meditation, centering and journaling among them.  I am aware that many are not ready to take this step.  For those people, I suggest a technique that sounds more scientific to help get past doubts and rejection.  It uses the subconscious mind’s natural function as a search engine to ask positive why questions.  Coined as Afformations by Noah St. John, you do not have to believe anything.  You simply have to ask – and keep asking — as guidance, resources and contacts come to you.  Then be willing to act on that guidance.  That is the second part of that Shaker saying – move your feet.

As you act, you begin to see results.  If these results bring positive feelings, you are taking the right steps.  As you continue to use your subconscious to connect to quantum consciousness, you are acting in faith in something and your belief that you can recover grows.   If you treat this as a relationship, especially a loving relationship, amazing things begin to happen.  Fear and other traumatic negative emotions lessen and when you feel them, you can turn them over to this Higher Power, asking for resolution.

To move your feet, joining a support group or mastermind will help.  Members and leaders can share their experiences and help victims get past the fears that affect them most heavily.  Being around others, you find the will power to take needed actions.  Creating new routines can also sustain you.  For me, consistently using daily simple tasks replaced fear and anger with action and gratitude.  Committing to these can help you avoid or rise out of depression.

This continual movement between prayer and action becomes the key to your ongoing progress.  As negative emotions pass, there is more room for ideas for you to explore and get motivated to take new and different actions.  The thought of actions begins to form into a plan that you can follow.

Knowing what you want at this moment is essential.  Before you get anything, you have to want something.  If you don’t know what you want, you wander around, just going through the motions of surviving.  Play with the ideas that are coming to you until you find one that starts to take on a life of its own and then focus your energy on it.

These early desires may not be your lifelong dream.  They may be more basic, designed to help you stabilize and survive long term.  Organize your thoughts to create a believable action plan of what has to happen in order for you to achieve these first goals.

These action steps become a record that demonstrates you are making progress.  They instill the belief that you can sustain your progress with more actions.  This is important as everyone runs into obstacles along the path to achieve.  The challenge is to believe and expect when our outer circumstances indicate the polar opposite and we have absolutely no idea how something will happen.  That’s when we create belief out of thin air.

One way to do this is by taking small actions that move ideas into possibilities.  Below are a few suggested steps to build belief that what you want is possible:

  • Figure out what would be required to pursue your biggest idea.
  • Take an inventory of your skills and abilities.
  • See what training might be required and sign up for it.
  • Make a plan of action steps you can take to achieve your goals.
  • Get organized and do one thing every day that moves you toward your new dream.
  • Start behaving “as if” you are getting what you want. It will bring you comfort.

Watch the results you get and adjust to stay on course in spite of obstacles or conflicts that may develop.  Be ready to revise your plan around new and evolving visions.

When you get here, you are standing on the edge of possibility, filled with passion and enthusiasm.  You will survive.  You have the opportunity – a second chance – to rebuild toward what you want now.  You are moving toward thriving with the willingness to explore and realize unending possibilities.

Remember, regardless of the circumstances – both inner and outer – in which you find yourself, you can thrive.  Choose your life.  Create your universe.  Pray and move your feet. You can do it.

I believe in you,



About the Author:  Susan Sherayko is a 3 time Emmy nominated executive in charge of production for a daily morning television show.  She is also a life, success, power habits and media coach and author, “Rainbows Over Ruins” in which she shares her journey after a landslide destroyed her home.  Susan helps people release the obstacles in their lives so they can share their message and mission, impact the world and gain the freedom to live the life of their dreams.   For more information on how to survive and thrive, check out her website, and pick up her “Survivor’s Guide: 12 Tips to Gain Inner Peace” as a FREE GIFT (

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Adversity follows a common trajectory.  In one way or another, we all have to get past the immediate trauma and devastation of the enormity of loss in our lives in order to go on living.  Ultimately, we get through the deep dive that accompanies great loss, and survive.  We move on and begin to stabilize our lives.  For me, this is when the most important recovery work of all begins because it involves learning to access the power to thrive.  It is also key to living a fulfilled life.  You will find value in the power to thrive long after disasters are far behind you.

Developing the power to thrive requires both inner and outer work that we begin while we are in the survival stage.  Often, we need help to stop seeing ourselves as victims of a monumental tragedy.  We need help to see our way forward to something wonderful.  We start looking for that help while we are learning how to cope with the enormity of our crisis.

Fortunately for me, I had returned to the faith of my childhood several years before the landslide.  I was actively involved in the life of the church, and when catastrophe struck, they were there for me.  Being connected to others in meaningful, reciprocal relationships yields a great deal throughout the recovery process.

Additionally, Peter and I shared a long term vision to have a large ranch, each for our own reasons.  We had no idea how we would obtain it, but we held the vision.   Immediately after the landslide, our purpose focused on finding a new home for us and our animals.

As I packed to leave the mud-filled house, I grabbed a couple books for spiritual support.  One of them was Dr. Wayne Dyer’s “There is a Spiritual Solution to Every Problem.”  Each morning before heading out to deal with the house or finding a new one, I would read a page from that book.  Grace was with me and the perfect house was found the very day it was listed for rent.   I was grateful.

Once settled in the rental house, injuries surfaced from all the pushing, pulling and lifting involved in moving.  We went to a chiropractor who did emotional release work with me through kinesiology.  Somehow I knew that I needed to heal both outer injuries and inner issues as a necessary part of the healing process.  In conjunction with this emotional release work, I was able to evaluate what was working in my life and what was not.  I uncovered parts of my life that needed healing and began to forgive and let go of the past through 12 Step work and Centered Prayer.

From the rental house, we began to focus on finding a permanent home that would bring us closer to our vision of the ranch.  We spent a year driving out to the country each week to see what was available.  When we found it, we worked with the owner to allow us time to work through the financial and legal issues.  They were kind enough to give us the time we needed.  For that, we were grateful.  Once we moved into our new home, we were bathed in feelings of gratitude.  We felt profoundly blessed.

Not long after arriving, Peter developed a most fortuitous relationship that lasts to this day.  It offered new opportunities for his business and for that we are extremely grateful.  I felt the first urges to contribute in a new way – as a coach writing, speaking, teaching and producing in order to help others discover and pursue their dreams.  I wanted to share my experience in order to help other people face similar circumstances, reconnect to their purpose and get past the obstacles that appeared to stop them.   I began to take classes to become a coach, write a book, produce a podcast, and create a course – all to help other people bounce back from adversity and go on to thrive.

We continue to pursue those activities.  We are both enjoying the best positions in our lives to date and continue to nurture new visions and take action to make them happen.  We feel as if we are thriving in a world of infinite possibilities.

The outer actions we took are important in the process of getting here, however, the inner work involved is what sustains me to this day.   It is what enables me to continue to dream of even greater accomplishments.  Let’s take a look at that inner work as it may benefit you:

  • Faith in something greater than yourself through prayer and meditation
  • Community – meaningful, reciprocal relationships that are mutually supportive
  • Purpose combined with possibility thinking
  • Inspired Routine –
    • Begin your day with a journal entry expressing thanks and gratitude for at least 10 things in your life, blessings and opportunities to take action toward new accomplishments.
    • Affirm and Afform positive statements and positive why questions.
    • Use Centered Prayer to develop and maintain your connection to your Higher Self
    • Practice forgiveness for any perceived slight from others or yourself.
    • Allow yourself to dream, to play with an idea and imagine how it could benefit your life and others. Express your vision of what you want and how that relates to your purpose and God’s will.  These things contribute to your resilience and prepare you to take action the rest of the day.
  • Healing work – such as emotional release, kinesiology, 12 Step, Centered Prayer
  • Action steps to build belief that what you want is possible –
    • Figure out what would be required to pursue your biggest idea.
    • Take an inventory of your skills and abilities.
    • See what training might be required and sign up for it.
    • Make a plan of action steps you can take to achieve your goals.
    • Get organized and do one thing every day that helps you move toward your new dream.
    • Watch the results you get and adjust to stay on course in spite of obstacles or conflicts that may develop around you. As you take these actions, you will be developing some traction.  Call it momentum and momentum helps you persist.
  • Let go and allow possibilities to unfold –
    • Start to live as if you already had possession of your vision.
    • As it becomes second nature to keep doing what you are doing on a daily basis, you will see the results you desire unfold before you.

These were the things we did while stabilizing our lives and then moving into a thriving state.  When you begin to feel those first urges to take up something new or contribute in a new way, you are well on your way, not just bouncing back but bouncing forward into new and uncharted possibilities.  Act on those impulses.

Remember, regardless of the circumstances – both inner and outer – in which you find yourself, you can develop the power to thrive.  Choose your life.  Create your universe.  You can do it.

I believe in you,



About the Author:  Susan Sherayko is a 3 time Emmy nominated executive in charge of production for a daily morning television show.  She is also a life, success, power habits and media coach and author, “Rainbows Over Ruins” in which she shares her journey after a landslide destroyed her home.  Susan helps people release the obstacles in their lives so they can share their message and mission, impact the world and gain the freedom to live the life of their dreams.   For more information on how to survive and thrive, check out her website, and pick up her “Survivor’s Guide: 12 Tips to Gain Inner Peace” as a FREE GIFT (


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Recovering from a major setback or adversity is not an overnight experience.  It is a process that unfolds in stages as you heal.  Sometimes you get stuck; sometimes you surge ahead; sometimes you fall back.  You may find it helpful to look at an overview of the journey you may encounter.  Such a big picture may give you helpful signs that you are ready to bounce back from setbacks.  In fact, it may also help you prepare to thrive.

Dr. Randall Bell, founder of CoreIQ, is developing such an overview through his work with post-traumatic thrivers.  Dr. Bell has made his living helping communities evaluate and plan recovery from some of the world’s most devastating disasters.  Both economist and social scientist, he is the author of “Me-We-Do-Be” and several other titles.  He asked me to join him the other night to augment an earlier interview about our experience after the landslide.  The interview was structured around his new insights into the post-traumatic journey.

The beginning point is, of course, the setback that transforms your life suddenly and unexpectedly.  Dr. Bell calls it a dive.  You can also call it your pit.  After the landslide, I often mentioned that my world had come tumbling down, literally and figuratively.  It’s a shock and you don’t know what to do, who to call, or even begin to comprehend the full impact the event will have in your life.  People put off facing the reality of it all as long as possible.  Six months after the landslide, Katrina devastated New Orleans.  Watching people on the news, I wept for them because they had no idea of what was ahead of them.  They all spoke as if this would be a week long event, not months and years of recovery.  They were furious that enough was not being done to restore them to their regular lives right away.  I had been angry as well, not in the first days but later, when we found there were no easy solutions, no governmental aid for our situation and no insurance to help ease the financial burdens.

For quite some time after a serious event, you are consumed by its aftermath.  The physical aspect is right in front of you.   Instinctively, you know to escape the immediate damage, find shelter for family and pets, and deal with any physical injuries.

But, for us, the emotional toll felt more intense than the physical disruption.  The clear and present danger to our finances terrified me.  I had a pit in my stomach continuously and a terrible time sleeping.  Fear dominated my life.  Fortunately, I was part of a faith community.  Within that supportive group, I received a daily plan of action – a routine – that may have helped me stave off the depression that hits so many after an event like this.  And I was blessed by something else.  Faith – the ability to believe in what you cannot see – provided the strength to get us through this difficult time.

When you are ready to face the aftermath of your setback head on, you will recognize your thoughts and actions as signs that you are ready to bounce back from the situation.  It may take some time.  We were very fortunate.  A timely phone call moved us into the next stage of recovery — survival mode — within a day or two.  We quickly realized that we had to find ways to handle finances and look for resources to either rebuild or move on.  Our clear purpose was to keep our income flowing in order to find a new home, heal from injuries and address legal and financial issues.  We put our heads down and did what we had to do.

Notably, it was also a time of searching for help.  Our attorney told us to find a new rental home for the present as it could take 2 years to work through the problems.  While in that rental house, I studied.  I learned centered prayer, engaged in church activities, professional groups and other community activities.  I went to opportunity meetings to find something that would provide hope that the financial situation could be resolved.   All in all, it took 18 months to move into our new long term ranch.

Once we were in our new home, we felt so lucky to have found a place that was even better for us than our old house.  Actually, we felt blessed.  We were blessed to have developed resilience.   We needed that resilience to recover from illness, depression, fear and the disaster itself.  We were also blessed with the gift of strong purpose that gave us the inner drive and tenacity to persist in spite of obstacles that we encountered.  We were blessed to have a strong support system in our community relationships.   It still took some time to stabilize and believe that we were going to be okay.

During those early days in the house, something else began to happen that Dr. Bell would say took us from just surviving to beginning to thrive.  Peter was able to take the blessing of new space to build up his business potential.  I wanted to find out why we had been able to get through this catastrophe so well. As I searched for an answer, I found I wanted to communicate what I learned to others by whatever means I could – writing a book, producing a podcast, creating a course, speaking online and, of course, blogging.

When you begin to feel those first urges to take up something new or contribute in a new way, you are well on your way to do more than bounce back by bouncing forward into new and uncharted possibilities.  Act on those impulses.  Keep visualizing and acting on those visions and you will rebuild your life and go on to manifest your dreams.  You can do it.  You can thrive.

I believe in you,



About the Author:  Susan Sherayko is a 3 time Emmy nominated executive in charge of production for a daily morning television show.  She is also a life, success, power habits and media coach and author, “Rainbows Over Ruins” in which she shares her journey after a landslide destroyed her home.  Susan helps people release the obstacles in their lives so they can share their message and mission, impact the world and gain the freedom to live the life of their dreams.   For more information on how to foster a vision, act on intention and rebuild your life, check out her podcast Rebuilding Your Life: Moving from Disaster to Prosperity and pick up a FREE GIFT at


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After a setback, when we attempt to make changes which may involve challenging our existing lifestyle and belief systems, the mind can get in our way  – specifically the subconscious mind.  The subconscious mind runs our automatic bodily systems in the background.  It’s our survival mechanism with a default negative position to stop any departure from the status quo.  But the subconscious (or non-conscious mind) also has another function that is often described as a search engine for problem solving.  When we develop our conscious relationship with this latter aspect of mind, we are engaged in what is known as our Inner Game.

In earlier discussions, we’ve been examining our Outer Game using our outer conscious mind.  We are most familiar with the sensory features of the conscious mind: seeing, hearing, touching, tasting, and smelling.  We use those senses to take in the external world and all the opinions and beliefs of those around us.  We then set up conscious thoughts and beliefs of our own based on what we have learned from others.   This is what we use to deal with the outer tasks that need to be done to overcome the circumstances you encounter after a setback.

To completely bounce back from adversity, we coordinate both our Inner and Outer Games.  Inner Work is done by looking at how the mind — our thoughts — get in the way of restoring our lives after a setback, then using tools and techniques to counter the negative results.  In any recovery program, it is essential to include both your inner and outer game.

Let’s look at a few methods you might utilize in your inner game in order to develop your resilience in the face of adversity and make progress in your outer attempts to bounce back.

  • Develop a relationship with your subconscious mind. Use meditation, centered prayer, walks in nature, art and music to connect with your Highest Self.   Then ask for clarity in your purpose and guidance.
  • Start asking and it is given. Start asking what you can do to recover, rebound and rebuild.  Do you have the ability to bounce back from illness, depression or all other manner of adversity?  Have you developed resilience?  Listen to what you are telling yourself.  Negative thinking affects your self-image and inserts doubt and fear into anything you are attempting after a disaster. Catch yourself when you make negative statements and flip your thinking.
  • Look at your belief systems. From birth, all of us adapted the beliefs of others into our own belief system.  These beliefs are often untrue.  They limit us.  What you are telling yourself can throw a monkey wrench in your attempts to rebuild.  It helps to surround yourself with people with whom you feel comfortable talking.  This might be a community group, a coach or counselor or a master mind group.  It’s of value to include people who love you unconditionally and believe in you before you can believe in yourself.
  • Develop tools and techniques like affirmations, Afformations and positive self-talk. Fear, grief and negative emotions like blame, anger, and self-pity are debilitating.    Try Afformations – positive why questions – to replace the thoughts that are self-defeating. Power Habits work in a similar way by replacing bad habits with more positive ones.
  • Check out tapping.  There is a school of thought called EFT – Emotional Freedom Technique – that works to eliminate emotionally “stuck” places in the electrical pathways of our brain.  Certain language and situations trigger old messages that are jammed at junctions of the pathways.  It is similar to the sensation of looping that PTSD patients experience to a greater degree.  Practitioners tap away negative feelings and messages and replace them with positive ones.
  • Develop a daily routine where you utilize these tools and techniques. Several daily actions I’ve written about before help prevent depression and fear:  talk with a trusted friend, help others, say thank you and surround yourself in beauty, prayer and meditation.   I journal.  My daily routine includes giving thanks, expressing gratitude, pre-paving what I would like my day to be like and Afforming.  You might substitute tapping or some other technique into a schedule like this.  Play the gratitude and appreciation game every day.  Taking the time to list at least 10 things daily takes you out of yourself in a very positive, loving way.
  • Evaluate what has been working in your life and what has not. After a setback, any bad habits you have can become the obstacle that blocks access to the very best resources you have within you.  Are you overweight?  Do you ever exercise?  Do you have any addictions?  Do you smoke?  You need to keep all resources available to you during the recovery process.  You may need help with this.  There are support groups with expertise in the specific area you identify as being of concern.  Be open to joining others.  They know what you are going through because they have probably been there themselves.
  • Write a new story. Often after a disaster, setback or other adversity, we take the victim’s role.  When we stop dwelling on the negatives, excuses and pain…when we stop telling ourselves or others the negative story, we can start writing a new positive story.  Take advantage of the opportunity to discover a new story.
  • Embrace positive change. It’s not unusual to discover that YOU have changed after a major negative event.  What you value changes.  You may be motivated to accomplish something greater and do something that makes a difference to others.  Go for it.  It is possible to be blessed by disaster.  It is possible to find rainbows over ruins.  You can bounce back from setbacks.
  • Remove any ambivalence in your thinking. The subconscious mind will pursue whatever you feel most deeply.  If you are undecided, it may pursue the opposite of what you really want because your negative feelings are stronger than the positive ones.  Discover and focus on what you want right now and why.  I found it helped to start with what lifted my spirit.  Look for at least one thing you can do today to move closer to your goal – to feel the way you want to feel when you achieve it. You want to feel that way NOW, not in the distant future.   Do something that helps you feel that way right now.  These actions will continue evolving.  Those first steps toward feeling better turn into bigger things.  It’s important to celebrate those steps in a positive direction and revise your plan as you see new things emerging.  Then follow a traditional success process to pursue your goals.

If you keep coordinating your inner and outer game, you will reduce the ways that your mind gets in your way. Be open to working with others to resolve your blocks.  It is your journey, but it does not have to be a lonely one.

You will develop your resilience in the face of adversity and make more rapid progress in your outer attempts to bounce back.   Keep sowing the seeds.  Persistence is everything. The more you keep at it, the sooner you’ll rebound. You can do it.

I believe in you,



About the Author:  Susan Sherayko is a 3 time Emmy nominated executive in charge of production for a daily morning show.  She is also a life, success, power habits and mindset coach and author, “Rainbows Over Ruins” in which she shares her journey after a landslide destroyed her home.  Susan helps people release the obstacles in their lives so they can share their message and mission with the world and live their best lives.  For more information on how to pick up the pieces after a setback, check out Your Survivor’s Guide: 12 Tips to Gain Inner Peace available FREE at


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